Solving Life’s Problems

If you were in prison, surrounded by armed guards and deprived of your freedom to come and go as you pleased, you would probably say that you had a problem—or even several problems! You would most likely feel that the best solution for the problem would be freedom!

When the apostle Paul found himself in that situation, he didn’t see it as a problem at all. Instead, he saw it as God’s divine appointment for his life. He considered the privilege God had given him to defend and establish the gospel (Philippians 1:7). He considered the opportunities he had been given of sharing Jesus Christ with the palace guards and with his fellow ministers in the city. In Lesson 1 we mentioned Paul’s reaction to his imprisonment. He was rejoicing because he knew God was using him even in prison.

Perhaps the best point of view with which to face problems is to see them as opportunities to exercise faith, to practice trusting the Lord, to prove God’s great faithfulness, and to be proved by Him. Your Christian faith is made stronger when you work together with the Lord to find solutions to life’s problems. He does have the right solution for every problem!

Start With A Christian Approach

Two Important Questions

Recently I heard about a young couple who had decided to get a divorce. When they had married, they were both dedicated Christians who faithfully attended their church, read the Bible, and prayed together. But as he got more and more involved in his work, and she became occupied with the two children that came along in the first four years of marriage, their lives became too busy. First their daily habit of reading the Word and praying together dropped off, and gradually they found more and more reasons to stay away from church.

Quite naturally, when problems began to creep into their marriage, they were not spiritually prepared to deal with them. Even though they were well aware of what the Bible taught in matters of faith and conduct, they were not willing to practice this teaching. They made up their own minds about the solution to their problems. Christian friends tried to persuade them to work on their relationship and not seek a divorce, but they had made their decision. They didn’t want to hear what God’s Word said about divorce because hearing it might affect their decision (see Mark 10:2-12; Matthew 5:31-32). They went ahead with the divorce, and exchanged one set of problems for some worse ones.

By choosing a way to solve their problems which was contrary to God’s revealed will as given in His Word, this young couple deprived themselves of these blessings:

1. Divine strength to work through a problem until it is solved.

2. Peace which comes from obedience.

3. Direction from the Holy Spirit so that God’s will can be known.

4. God’s power to bring an unexpected or even supernatural answer to a problem.

This young couple is an example of people who had the wrong answers to two very important questions I ask myself often, and which I want to share with you. They are:

1. Do I really want to know God’s will about this problem?

2. Am I willing to follow God’s will when I know it?

If, when you ask yourself these two questions, you cannot answer a firm yes, then you need first of all to spend time in spiritual preparation, asking the Lord to make you willing to say, “Yes, I want to find AND carry out God’s solution for my problems.”

Spiritual Preparation 

Spiritual preparation is of great importance to successful problem solving. A time of stress is the time to increase your devotional prayer and Bible reading, not to decrease it. Solving a problem in a Christ-like way is not something we can decide to do at the moment the problem occurs. Problems may occur suddenly and need immediate action. A wise Christian will maintain an attitude of spiritual readiness with his heart and mind continually open to guidance from the Holy Spirit.

The apostle Paul gives some helpful instructions in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 21, 22: “Be joyful always, pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances. . . . Test everything. Hold on to the good. Avoid every kind of evil.”

Spiritual preparation should include these activities:

1. Have a regular time of Bible reading, meditation (thinking about what you read), and prayer every day. Open your mind to what the Bible teaches. Allow the Holy Spirit to direct your thoughts.

2. Listen to scriptural teaching from your pastor and other Christian teachers.

3. Determine in your heart to consider every problem in terms of what the Bible teaches about it, even if the scriptural solution seems very difficult to follow.

Avoid Wrong Reactions

Spiritual preparation will help you to reject and avoid certain common but wrong ways of dealing with problem situations. Many of these wrong ways will fit under one of these categories: anger, retreat, and human effort alone. Let’s consider each of them briefly.

Anger

Many people who are wronged or offended have a first impulse to react in an angry or aggressive way. This can take many forms: anger aimed at other people, at God, or at our circumstances; accusation, or placing the blame on someone else; and even revenge. When we are hurting, it is easy to want to hurt the one who caused the pain. This is not the way Christ taught us to react, but it is a common fault. Christ’s way is this:

You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. . . . You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven (Matthew 5:38-39, 43-45).

Actually, when we turn our anger over to the Lord, we can trust Him to take care of us. In Romans 12:19 the apostle Paul tells us, “Never take revenge, my friends, but instead let God’s anger do it. For the Scripture says, ‘I will take revenge, I will pay back, says the Lord’” (TEV)

Christ is the perfect example of one who was “unoffendable”—that is, He did not allow Himself to become offended when He was treated wrongly. He never reacted in anger. As He hung on the cross looking down upon the Roman soldiers who had beaten Him, spit upon Him, and nailed Him to the cross, He prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). If you will refuse to be offended or to react in anger when someone mistreats you, you will experience real joy to know that you have come through the trial with a right attitude. This will strengthen you so that when the next offense comes it will be easier to face it without anger.

Being “unoffendable” takes prayer and practice, but what a blessing it is when you can look back and say, “I’m so glad I didn’t react in anger, but I was able to show love to the one who tried to offend me.”

Retreat 

Retreat, or withdrawal, can take many forms. Sometimes it means running away from a problem, looking for a hiding place. Some people escape reality by losing themselves in drug addiction, in alcoholism, in seeking worldly pleasures, in overeating or overwork, in religious fanaticism, or in other ways. You can hide behind almost anything to avoid facing the truth. (There is, of course, a constructive kind of withdrawal also, when a Christian might choose to leave a situation to avoid a problem.)

Retreat sometimes takes the form of physical escape. I know of one young woman who was not married and still lived with her parents. She began to worry that she would never marry, and would soon be responsible for the care of her aging parents, while her married brothers and sisters would not have that responsibility. Soon her feelings of self-pity and bitterness caused her to pack all her belongings and leave home without letting anyone know where she was going.

Another form of retreat is withdrawal. A widow I know of refuses to leave her house except in emergencies, and has stopped seeing her family and friends since her husband died. She is very lonely and unhappy.

Human Effort Alone 

I have saved this self-help response until last because it is not all negative. God has made the human will a powerful, positive force which is able to rise above life’s difficulties in a remarkable way. If there were nothing to “positive thinking” the non-Christian world would never be able to survive. But to trust in human will-power as the main resource for handling life’s problems is certainly not the Christian way! God’s intent is for His children to face their problems in the power of the risen Christ, and to use their problems as opportunities for Him to reveal His power and grace. So in considering reactions to avoid in dealing with problems, it is important to remember not to try to solve them by your own human efforts alone, but take them to God in prayer!

There is no problem too small to take to the Lord. When I am driving my car and am pressed for time, with many errands that must be taken care of, I even pray for parking spaces! Is this foolish? No! God is the Grand Creator of the universe, but He is also the God who knows when a sparrow falls to the ground, and who numbers the hairs on your head (Matthew 10:29-31). He cares about even the little problems in your life, and He wants to help you. Therefore, the most important thing you can do about solving life’s problems is to follow the advice of the writer of Proverbs 3:5-8. Read this Scripture, then select the best answer to the following questions.

It may be easier for you to take your little problems to the Lord than to trust Him when you are confronted with a problem that seems to have no solution. This is God’s opportunity to work a miracle in your life—His power is unlimited when you learn to commit every thing into His hands, and He will never disappoint you! (See Ephesians 3:20; 1 John 5:14-15.)

Use A Systematic Method

We have been laying the foundation thus far in this lesson for the use of a systematic method of problem solving based on Christian principles. Many books have been written to help people with all kinds of problems. This is a complex subject, and there are many approaches to it. Our purpose is to give you some guidelines which, if followed, will help you to deal with your problems with the right attitude and with a Christlike spirit, allowing God to provide the answers!

After we have discussed the six basic steps in a systematic method of problem solving, we will give you the opportunity to work through the steps using a problem situation from Scripture, and from present day situations. As we discuss specific problems in future lessons, you will have opportunities to apply the steps to arrive at biblical solutions. We hope in this way to help you make an application of the principles to real problems in your own life, or in the lives of people you want to help.

Method A

Step 1. Identify the Problem

Not all problems are easily identified. Others are. Suppose I need money, or have unpleasant neighbors, or notice that my eyes are getting weak. These kinds of problems are easily identified.

If, on the other hand, I feel unhappy but don’t know why, have trouble sleeping, or feel uneasy but can’t explain what has caused the feeling, I may have to give myself to specific meditation and prayer to discover the source of the problem. I may even need outside help to discover it.

a. First you need to identify the source of the problem. We talked about sources of problems in Lesson 1. Once this has been  established, you will be better able to face up to the problem. When you have defined it as something that really can be changed, you are ready for the next step.

b. You may need to look for deeper causes. For example, suppose I am short of money for food and I will not receive my pay for several more days. The cause may be that I have been careless with my money and used it for unnecessary things. I can solve the problem easily by planning more carefully in the future. But if I find that the necessities of life are greater than my weekly income can cover, on a regular basis, then I must find a more permanent solution. The deeper cause is that I regularly need more money than is available to pay for my necessities. I must either increase my income or cut my expenses.

Step 2. Commit Your Problem to the Lord

God is greater than any problem you may have. Lift your eyes away from your problem and to the all-knowing, all-wise, all-loving, and all-powerful Jesus Christ. He cares about you (1 Peter 5:7). Talk about the problem to God. That is, say it out loud in your own words. God knows what the problem is, it’s true, but He wants us to come to Him in prayer.

There is something very important about being definite in prayer. One dear Christian lady I know writes down her prayer requests and the date when she began praying about each of them. Then as the answers come she records that date also. She says it strengthens her faith to go over the record and see how faithful God is. It also reminds her to give thanks for answered prayers.

As you turn your attention from your problem to the Lord, you will feel that a great weight has rolled from your shoulders. The worry must leave, because you are trusting Christ. The burden must go, because He has said, “Come unto me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28 TEV). “Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7 TEV). This is the true meaning of commitment: concern enough to do what has to be done, and a trusting heart that does away with worry and fear.

Step 3. Consider All Possible Solutions 

We have already discussed in Lesson 2 the ways for finding solutions. Sometimes there is more than one solution to a problem. What you want to do is find the best solution. Apply these steps to each possible solution:

a. Discover the scriptural principles that apply to the problem. Reject any solutions that do not measure up to these principles.

b. Seek answers in all the appropriate (right) places. Use your resources.

c. Seek God’s will.

Step 4. Consider the Possible Consequences of All Alternatives 

Think of the possible consequences for the couple who decided divorce was the solution to their problems. The results of a broken home affect not only the husband and wife, but also the children. A wrong solution can create greater problems than those you started with. That’s why it is so important to reject any solutions which cannot be supported by scriptural teaching. Use your resources to determine what consequences might result from any decision you make.

Step 5. Choose One Solution and Act on It

You have identified your problem, and you have committed it to God in prayer. You have carefully studied God’s Word to find His teaching concerning your problem or related problems. If necessary, you have discussed your problem with a Christian friend, pastor, or counselor. Now you have used your best judgment, guided by the Holy Spirit, to decide what is God’s will for you in this situation. It is now time to act upon the decision you choose. Believe that God will help you and He will be with you as you take this step toward solving your problem.

Step 6. Evaluate the Results and Make Any Needed Adjustments 

I have included this step because we need to evaluate the results of the solution we chose. Sometimes after we have acted to solve a problem, we find that it was not the best choice—further adjustment may be necessary. Don’t despair if you have acted according to your best judgment, after committing your problem to God and asking for His direction, and then you find that somehow your solution failed to achieve the desired results. Problem solving is learned through experience. It is not a talent we inherited at birth. This is a time to look within yourself to see if you have fully committed yourself to God’s will and are ready to follow wherever He leads you.

Method B

Step 1. Identify the Problem 

Use the same procedure as in Method A.

Step 2. Commit It to God 

Use the same procedure as in Method A.

Step 3. Expect God to Work for Your Good 

When the apostle Paul found himself behind prison bars, he knew he could not change the situation. God did not release him from prison that time, as He had done earlier in Paul’s ministry (Acts chapter 16). But Paul expected God to work for his good anyway. As a result the Lord used him in a wonderful way to spread the gospel even in prison.

The real solution to this kind of problem is to joyfully accept what cannot be changed, and allow the situation to be a growing experience for you—forming you into the likeness of Christ and making you a more caring, compassionate human being. Remind yourself often that “in all things God works for good with those who love him” (Romans 8:28 TEV). It is unhealthy to dwell on how things “might have been, if only . . .” Such thoughts are a waste of time and energy. You can expect God to work for your good no matter what your situation may be.

Rejoice And Give Thanks

The last principle in the Christian response to problem solving is to give God the glory. “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Praise God continually. Whenever your mind is not occupied with necessary business, develop the habit of letting praise flow silently to God. This simple practice will transform your mind. Praise Him for His faithfulness, for standing with you in all your problems.

Like Paul, share your good news with others! Paul wrote about the faithfulness of Christ when he penned the letter to his friends the Philippian Christians (Philippians 1:12). He didn’t want them to feel sorry for him! He said joyfully, “In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel” (Philippians 1:4-5). Paul also shared with them some of the things he had learned as he allowed God to work out the problems in his life:

I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:11-13).

When we recognize that Christ is the Master of every situation that comes into our lives, that He cares about us, and that He is always working for our eternal good, we can do nothing but praise Him. He is worthy of our praise! We are ready now to consider specific problems which are common to many people, and which you may face.