Getting to Know You

Author: Dave Beroth

In 2007, John Brandrick, a British man, was experiencing abdominal pain. He visited his doctor and was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. His doctor told John he had a year to live.

Since he only had a year to live, he decided to live it up! He quit his job, quit paying his mortgage, and used his savings to give gifts to friends and family, go on vacations, eat out, and do all the other things he wanted to do. At the end of the year, he was out of money. He was also feeling really good!

He was not feeling like a man who was going to die anytime soon. When Brandrick returned to the doctor, he was surprised to learn his “cancer” was merely an inflammation of the pancreas. He was going to live—but he was broke, had no job and was way behind on his mortgage!

You can’t cure what’s wrong until you get a proper diagnosis!

There are events in our lives that cause us to take a good look at ourselves. The death of a close friend or loved one, a shocking diagnosis, difficulties in relationships, and losing our job tends to make us stop this whirlwind of activities we call life and look deep inside our souls.

A mature individual periodically takes time to do the work of self examination. If you want to grow, identify yourself more with a long range view that grows through adjustment rather than with the momentary view that is being examined and tested.

Are you asking yourself the right questions as you go through life? One way to examine yourself and what you stand for is to consistently ask yourself questions and take the time to fully think them out. You could begin with the following twelve questions:

  1. How clear am I about the direction of my life?
  2. Am I doing my best?
  3. How much control do I have over my emotions?
  4. How true to my beliefs and values do I live out in my life?
  5. How well am I taking care of myself?
  6. How am I serving others?
  7. How am I demonstrating love?
  8. How am I expressing gratefulness?
  9. How am I contributing, or do I take more than I give?
  10. How am I viewing problems and obstructions? What can I learn from this?
  11. What am I saying “yes” to more than I need to?
  12. What should I be saying “no” to?

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